You Know Zillionaires* By Their Smiles
by Chellie Campbell
*A Zillionaire is someone who has a zillion dreams of infinite possibility, is taking a zillion actions to make them come true, making as many zillions of dollars as possible, making a zillion friends, doing a zillion good deeds, taking a zillion naps and a zillion vacations, and having a zillion adventures in a long, fun-filled life!
I wear gold tennis shoes. Always. I have gold leather tennis shoes for regular wear, gold mesh tennis shoes with rhinestones for speaking engagements, and gold-beaded tennis shoes for black tie affairs. All gold tennis shoes, all the time.
At first, I only wore them for fun. Then one year I gave up high heels for Lent and I haven’t had them on my feet since. I decided that being comfortable and cute in my own way—not in the fashion industry way—makes me a Zillionaire. I am always comfortable and my feet never hurt. That makes me happy, and happiness is a Zillionaire trait. You will know Zillionaires by their smiles.
What do you really want? Not what you think you should want, or what your parents said you should want, or what your spouse, partner, friend, magazines or television says would be a great thing to want. Zillionaires are aware of the inner core values that are important to them, and their outer lives reflect them. Inner core value: comfort. Outer reflection: gold “tennies.”
But what if you don’t know what you want? At one point in Alice in Wonderland, Alice was walking through the woods when suddenly the path she was walking on diverged in two different directions. Confused, she stopped, not knowing which path to take.
At that moment, the Cheshire Cat appeared in the tree next to her. She asked him which way she should go.
“Where are you going?” he inquired.
“I don’t know,” she replied.
“Then it doesn’t matter which path you take, does it?” said the Cat, and disappeared.
If you don’t know where you’re going, any path will take you there. Tell me what you want and I can help you locate the right port, help you navigate your ship into that port, and the Universe will kick in the right breeze to lift your sails. But no one knows how to help you get to “I don’t know.”
Pick a goal. Any goal. Your best guess for today will do. Don’t wait for the right goal or the perfect goal. It may be around the bend in the road and you can’t see it from where you stand today. Pick an interim goal that will get you in action, give you experience in achieving goals, and one day you’ll find yourself around that bend where your “perfect goal” is within reach after all.
Do you want a job, a career, a profession, or a calling? What moves you, motivates you, inspires you? What gets you up in the morning with a smile and an “I can hardly wait” attitude?
Children are masters of “I can hardly wait.” They are laser-focused when they decide they want something. They want it all and they want it now. And they “can hardly wait” until the day when they get it.
When my nephew, Robert, was four years old, both of his older sisters were on T-ball teams. They had bright, crisp uniforms and practiced every week. When game day came, the whole family sat in the bleachers and cheered them on. More than anything else, Robert wanted to play T-ball. But there were no T-ball teams for four-year-olds. The minimum age was five. Mama Jane patiently explained this to him every time he watched his sisters play.
“Okay, I’m going to play T-ball, too,” Robert said. “Just as soon as I’m five. I can hardly wait!”
Then one warm Spring afternoon, Jane, Robert, the two girls and their dad went to the neighborhood park. There were several families there already, and they had started a pick-up game of T-ball. Laughing, the girls and their parents ran out on the field to join in the fun. But Robert stayed behind. Jane turned around and saw Robert on the sidelines looking dejected.
“Come on, Robert,” she called, “You can play with us today!”
“No, I can’t,” said Robert.
“Yes, you can!” Jane exclaimed. “Today you can play.”
“I can?” Robert asked, wide-eyed with excitement. “Am I five?”
Today, let’s all be five. Let’s play T-ball, or basketball, or tennis, or poker, or Wheel of Fortune. Let’s join a group and play a game for all we’re worth. Play the Game of Life for all we’re worth. It’s the only game in town, and the only way to lose is not to play, crying “I don’t know what I want.”
Live it up! What secret goal do you want but are afraid to name because you can’t see how you would ever get it, how you would qualify for it? Want to put High-Roller Suite on your list even if you’re not a High-Roller? Or an overnight stay at Buckingham Palace, even if you’re not royalty? Or free front-row seats at the next rock concert with a backstage pass, even if you don’t have “connections”?
Go for goal, Zillionaire!
Chellie Campbell is the author of bestselling books The Wealthy Spirit, Zero to Zillionaire, and most recently From Worry to Wealthy: A Woman’s Guide to Financial Success Without the Stress. She is widely quoted in major media including Redbook, Good Housekeeping and more than 50 popular books. She has been treating Money Disorders like Spending Bulimia and Income Anorexia in her Financial Stress Reduction® Workshops for over 25 years. www.chellie.com.